When I gave people the chance to ask questions during a marriage seminar, a woman named Andrea spoke up. She wanted to know how to cope with her workaholic husband. He spends most of his time at work and hardly any time at home. He leaves early in the morning and comes back late at night, barely seeing his kids and only spending time with Andrea when he’s exhausted. The only way he contributes to the family is through his paycheck.
As Andrea finished talking, many other wives in the audience nodded their heads, understanding her situation all too well. So, who exactly is this workaholic husband? Well, he’s a man who has made his work the center of his life. While he happens to be married and might have children, his true obsession lies in his job. He can’t comprehend why his wife isn’t satisfied with his achievements and all the material things he provides. But for the workaholic, work is more than just a means to earn a living—it’s a quest for purpose and fulfillment. Unfortunately, this obsession leaves his life out of balance.
Typically, the workaholic finds joy in his work. He eagerly jumps out of bed in the morning, ready to take on the challenges of the day. Even when he gets home, he can’t help but open his laptop and continue working, always busy but rarely satisfied. He constantly seeks more, as if enough is never enough. The sun sets on another opportunity, and he must seize it before darkness falls.
In the community and his professional circles, the workaholic husband often commands respect and receives praise from his employer. However, his wife seldom sees him as “Mr. Wonderful.” She is likely to be critical of him because he invests so little in their relationship and, if they have children, shows little involvement in their lives.