When we find ourselves deeply unhappy, it’s easy to feel trapped in our own misery, believing that there’s no way out, especially when our circumstances remain stagnant. Being positive becomes a challenge when we’ve been struggling in a difficult marriage for an extended period. It’s tough to maintain a positive outlook when we perceive ourselves as victims, while labeling our spouse as the one with all the issues. To some extent, that’s accurate – we may not be the one struggling with addiction, abusive behavior, or irresponsibility.
However, we still have the power to change certain things. If we want our situation to improve, we must start by addressing our mindset and challenging the myths we discussed earlier. We need to internalize four essential truths:
- Our state of mind is not determined by our environment.
- People are capable of change.
- In a desperate marriage, we have more than just two options – resigning ourselves to a life of misery or leaving.
- Our situation is not without hope.
By embracing these truths, we can pave the way for transformation and create a path towards a more fulfilling future.